There are moments when even the strongest feel fragile. As a healer- clinical hypnotherapist, life coach, psychic medium and spiritual guide, I witness others walking through storms and I sometimes find myself caught in one, too. In those moments, the question arises: How can I give power to others when I feel I have none left?
The answer lies in a profound paradox: true empowerment doesn’t come from a place of unshakeable strength, but from deep awareness, radical presence, and authentic vulnerability. This is the path of the wounded healer, the teacher who continues to learn, and the guide who lets the light pass through their own cracks to illuminate the way for others.
Practice:
Before sessions or interactions, say aloud or silently: “I am a clear channel. I do not absorb what is not mine. I witness with love and release with grace.”
In this teaching, we’ll explore:
●The difference between external and internal power
●The spiritual principle of transmuting pain into purpose
●Practical techniques for accessing your power
●How empowering others heals and fuels your own journey
●Tools and practices to stay centered and clear
Let’s begin by exploring what “power” really is.
What Is Power?
A RedefinitionIn our society, power is often equated with dominance, manipulation, control, or influence. But real, sustainable power—the kind that changes lives and uplifts others—resides quietly within. It’s the energy of alignment, integrity, and presence.
There are two primary forms of power:
External Power – This comes from roles, achievements, wealth, or recognition. It’s often temporary and can be easily taken away.
Internal Power – This arises from authenticity, connection to truth, self-awareness, and alignment with higher purpose. It’s enduring.
When you feel powerless, you are likely disconnected from your internal power—not because it has disappeared, but because the noise of fear, self-doubt, or exhaustion is drowning it out.
***Remember: Your internal power isn’t a fuel tank that runs empty. It’s a current that always flows—if you can keep the channel clear.
Embracing Vulnerability as Power:
It’s a myth that to empower others you must always be strong, certain, and “together.” Some of the most healing moments happen when you show up as you are, without pretense. Authentic vulnerability is magnetic. It tells others, “It’s okay to be human. It’s okay to not be okay. You’re still worthy. You’re still whole. ”When you say, “I’ve been there too,” not just with words but with presence, empathy, and understanding, you offer others the courage to face their own pain. Empowerment isn’t about having all the answers. It’s about holding space—sacred, open, non-judgmental space—for another to find their answer.
Transmutation: Turning Pain Into Power
One of your greatest spiritual tools is transmutation: the ability to transform pain, fear, and doubt into compassion, wisdom, and presence. Think of the caterpillar dissolving into goo before becoming a butterfly. That in-between place, where form disappears and chaos reigns, is alchemical. When you are in your own cocoon phase, your power is being refined—not lost.
Reflection practice:
What have you survived that has made you more compassionate, intuitive, or wise?
What insight did you gain from your lowest points?
How does your pain connect you more deeply to others?
When you use your experience not as a wound to hide but as a bridge to understanding, you step into true power.
The Mirror Effect: We Rise Together
Empowering others is not a one-way street. It’s a mirror. Every time you help someone reconnect with their strength, you’re reminded of your own. Every time you speak life into someone else’s dream, you water the soil of your own. In coaching, healing, or guiding work, one’s words are often messages oneself needs to hear. This is divine design. Life speaks to us through the service we offer others. You don’t have to “feel powerful” to channel something powerful. You only need to be willing, present, and open. Trust the process. Trust the resonance.
Practical Techniques to Reconnect to Inner Power
When you’re feeling disconnected, here are tools you can use to reconnect:
1. Self-Hypnosis or Guided Meditation: Use imagery of light, strength, or grounding to tap into your subconscious power centers. Visualize a river of power flowing through you, cleansing doubt and energizing your purpose. Utilize end result imagery.
2. Daily Alignment PracticeAsk yourself each morning: “What would it look like to act from my highest self today?” Write the answer down, and live it—even, and especially, in small ways.
3. Energy Reclamation Ritual: Call your energy back. Sit quietly, breathe deeply, and say with firm conviction: “I call my energy back from every thought, person, or event that has claimed it. I return to myself. I am whole.”
4. Service as Soul Fuel: Choose one person each day to encourage or uplift. Not because you “have to,” but because it feeds your spirit. Power grows when it’s shared.
5. Practical Techniques to Reconnect to Inner Power: Create a Daily Power Ritual –Choose 2-3 simple actions that reconnect you to your inner power (e.g., lighting a candle, journaling, breathwork, chanting, stretching, light yoga). Do them consistently each morning with the affirmation: “Each day, I return to my source. I choose presence over pressure.”
6. Empathy Without Absorption: Protecting Your Energy: One reason we feel drained or powerless is because we unconsciously absorb the emotions and energies of others. As a helper, healer, empathy or guide, your sensitivity is a gift—but it must be managed. Use visualization: imagine a golden light around you, or a mirror facing outward that reflects others’ energy while allowing only truth and love to enter.
7. The Power of Intention and Presence: Your intention carries more weight than your mood. You don’t have to “feel good” all the time. What matters is your willingness to show up with presence and love. Presence is power. It says: “I see you. I’m here. I may not have all the answers, but I am with you.” That presence, rooted in compassion, can move mountains. I taught my children all their lives that 90% of life is just showing up.
8. Your Spiritual Support System: You’re never doing this alone. You are connected to something greater—whether you call it God, Goddess, Source, Spirit, Higher Self, or Universal Intelligence. When you forget your power, remember your connection. Ask for guidance. Invoke support. Say: “Let me be a vessel. Work through me. Use me to uplift, heal, and inspire. Not from ego, but from truth.” And trust—trust that help is always available, even in silence.
9. The Ripple Effect- Your Power Multiplies: Every act of empowerment creates ripples. The client or friend or loved one you helped today may go home and speak differently to their child, who grows up feeling more secure and loved. You may never see the full impact—but it’s real and significant. The small shifts matter. The gentle words, the quiet presence, the brave questions. They are not small at all. And in the process of giving power away, you are charged again.
YOU ARE THE LIGHT.
You are a light, even when you don’t feel like one. Especially then. Because light isn’t loud or dramatic—it’s consistent. Subtle. Persistent. Even a flicker of light dispels darkness. So, when you feel powerless, remember: ●Your vulnerability is a strength. ●Your journey makes you relatable. ●Your presence is healing. ●Your connection is infinite. ●Your intention is enough.
Empower others not by having all the power, but by being a reminder of where to find it.In themselves. In the present. In the truth. And in doing so, you empower yourself—over and over again!